• Meaningful Living,  Mindfulness,  Self-love

    I am sorry….not sorry

    Hi hi It’s raining this morning and I like…. How do you feel when it rains? If you haven’t read ‘Can you stand the rain?, you definitely should. Did you have a good week? Mine turned out nice except for one ‘not so good’ experience. So i recently had an encounter that suddenly threw me off track. I was hurt but a few tears and venting to the right person got me back on track. Bottom line, I finally got an apology but then…is that it? Well, i am not asking for chocolates and roses (which isn’t a bad idea by the way) to go with an apology but personally,…

  • Blogging,  Lifestyle,  Mindfulness

    Different ways people get judged on the spot.

    I was running errands the other day with a friend when we saw the police had stopped two guys for driving a jeep that had dark tinted windows.  Both guys seemed distressed but what really got me thinking was when my friend said the two guys might be involved in shady deals.  This conclusion was made because they both wore earrings and had dreadlocks. Now, I tried to put up an argument to differ but it really didn’t get anywhere as the subject of discussion drifted into other topics. While reflecting much later at night, I thought about how easy it is to judge people on the spot just by…

  • Meaningful Living,  Mindfulness,  Self Awareness,  Self-love

    Not all wounds are visible.

    You can never really tell where it hurts…. Over the weekend, I read about the case of a man who told his driver to stop abruptly on a bridge, after which he got down from the vehicle and plunged into the lagoon immediately . He was reportedly taking a call when this happened. He was a doctor. I screamed!!!! This is just one out of the numerous cases that happens around the world. We hear about some and others are blown away with the wind. This is an intense piece for me as I cannot begin to imagine what transpires within those nano seconds before ……. (dark space). August Alsina’s…

  • Lifestyle,  Meaningful Living,  Mindfulness

    Mindfulness: 7 things you do without knowing it leaves a bad impression.

    …..or maybe you do know, but can’t be bothered…. Never mind what haters say, ignore them till they fade away… T.I and Rihanna had a good time getting us psyched up with the song ‘Live your Life’. I totally love that song by the way, but unless you plan to live in space with aliens, you should care a tiny bit about how you live your life and avoid being quick to assume someone is a ‘hater’ (This word is used loosely these days). How about we look inward? As individuals, we have different personality traits which reflects in our temperament, character, thinking, speaking and understanding. We also have the…

  • Inspiration,  Meaningful Living,  Mindfulness,  Positive thinking,  Self Awareness,  Self-love

    How you can manage your expectations.

    Happy New Month Fam!!  Yesterday I put up a post on instagram @phaytea with a caption about being excited at ‘start up’, retaining the tempo but knowing you should manage your expectations too. I got the nugde to write about it and so…here you go… I remember while watching the Big Brother Nigeria Eviction Show some weeks ago, a housemate who was up for eviction said she did not want to go home because the world had nothing to offer her (first mistake). I had not totally ‘processed’ that when another housemate said she always expects the worst from life (it seems we have too many people prophesying negativity).  At the end…